Ask “M”: Homework, Bullying & Homesickness
By staff writer Mia Bazo
I have about 4 hours of homework and 4 hours of sports: There isn’t enough time in the day. I can do the homework but I’m slower than the other kids in my grade. Sports is my life and my relief, but I can’t fall behind in my academics, my parents would kill me and take away my sports.
– “A Sporty Nerd”
Hey Sporty Nerd!
So homework can be time-consuming and hard. If you’re having trouble or you have concerns you should contact your teacher. (Tell him or her about what’s wrong or if you need help.) I’m not sure if you hang out after school or not but if you do, you shouldn’t. You need prioritize your time! Do the important things first, then the regular, then the bonus or work ahead. A good way to stay focused is to listen to classical music! (It’s been proven that anyone focuses more when they listen to classical music.) When you’re doing homework don’t watch TV, get off track, watch YouTube, etc. Remember to stay organized.
I need some advice. It hurts me when I see people tease my friend. They talk behind her back, make fun of her, and try to get her in trouble. I’m afraid to stand up to them because I’m afraid they will start being mean to me, too. I know that makes me a bad friend, but I don’t want them to turn on me! What should I do?
This is unfortunately a problem many people face. (You’re not alone!) If your friend is being bullied, don’t be afraid of helping your friend out. You have something the bullies haven’t got: confidence, strength, and courage. I know it’s not easy but I know you can and should do what you can to smooth out the situation.
Try greeting them with a friendly “hi”. Being friendly and caring shows that you can be the “bigger” person, and will also let the bullies know you’re not afraid of them. Make sure you and your friend don’t avoid eye contact or act afraid. If the bullying gets to the point where you and your friend can’t handle the hate, tell a teacher. (It’s not tattling, it’s confiding, and maybe the teacher will have a suggestion.) I believe in you!
Everyone seems so excited, but I’m feeling nervous about leaving home for 5 days for the 8th grade Washington, D.C. trip. I know it will be fun, but I get homesick easily. What do I do??
I suggest taking a bit of home to D.C.! (Picture, blanket, necklace, etc.) While you’re there, if you feel homesick, tell a close friend about how you’re feeling. They’ll help you. Also, If you need to cry don’t be afraid to :). You’re strong enough to push your way through. But I think you won’t need to worry about being too homesick, because you’ll be so busy and will be having too much fun! Try to have a great time and make some memories, because once you’re gone from D.C. you’ll miss it.
I’m feeling like the holidays is a gift buying frenzy. There is so much consumerism, people with stuff. And then gift exchanges at parties, Secret Santas, etc. where you end buying & receiving more stuff. What does this all mean? There is so much unnecessary gift giving, what can we do to change this? Do we really need to do this? I’d rather do something more meaningful instead of plugging each other up with “things”.
I understand the stress and gifts! You’re right, though, we don’t need all these gifts to celebrate the holidays! I suggest that next year, you and some friends or family could get together, explain your thoughts, and then maybe instead of keeping all that “stuff” or “things” you can donate. You could just celebrate without the presents. The holidays don’t have to be stressful, unless you stress yourself.
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